The joke goes, “What do you call a girl that hangs around musicians? A groupie. What do you call a guy that hangs around musicians? A drummer.” That one always cracks me up because it hints at what others perceive the mentality of drummers to be and other musicians’ attitudes towards them. When I tell people that I’m a drummer, I feel the need to also tell them that I play guitar, bass, keyboards, classical percussion, I sing and write and have a degree in music. Whew. I try to say it all in one breath too! I guess that I want people to respect me and to be impressed as well. I know, I know, not very humble, but it’s true. I think people perceive drummers to be like Animal the drummer from the Muppet Show. BEAT DRUMS! BEAT DRUMS! Ha Ha. Very funny. Think about something in your life that you are proud of and maybe people don’t show, what you feel to be, the proper respect for it. I’ve been playing drums longer than some of you have been alive. If I wasn’t any good, I should have stopped a long time ago. But, I’ve persisted and had some unique experiences because of it.
Now, I will say that sometimes it has cost me as well. There were times, when I was playing with an original band in the 90’s, that we would practice 4 nights a week. My home life suffered because of it, but I was “riding the wave of the dream” and the promise of being rich and famous. I couldn’t help myself. It’s like an addiction sometimes.
Some of you talked about playing musical instruments and have stopped for one reason or another. Music is very therapeutic. When I am mad and “road raging”, I want to hear Marilyn Manson, Korn, Disturbed, Slipknot, Mudvayne; anything to commiserate with. When I’m sad, I want to hear Sam Cooke, Motown, Journey ballads, the Purple Rain soundtrack; anything to let me know that I’m not the only one to hurt or be lonely. It helps us through our moods. Sometimes I base my whole day on what songs are played on the radio on the way to work. Silly, huh? How many of you can relate? Music is very powerful; the right song at the right time can help people fall in love. I remember dating a girl named Gina in high school. We both loved Prince, so whenever I wanted to think about her, I would play
The Beautiful Ones from the Purple Rain soundtrack. Still gets me every time. You can remember yourself through music. Some of my strongest memories (good and bad) are tied to music. When Ms H and I finished our first date, I kissed her goodbye and got in my car and Lenny Kravitz’
All of My Life (Wonder if I’ll Ever See You Again) was just coming on the radio. I called her on her cell phone, in the middle of the song, told her I had a great time and asked for a second date. She had just called her dad and sister and said that she didn’t think I was interested in her. If that song hadn’t come on at just the right time, Ms H and I might not be together today. How spooky is that? So, let the music move you and guide you. You never know what’s around the corner.